We are in this time of the year again!
The gift season.
2015 is saying goodbye. A new year is at your doorstep.
How do you live this time of the year? How do you end the year with serenity?
Last year around this same time I felt totally overwhelmed for a few days.
There was a pressure in the air. A loud voice in my head screaming a long to-do-list before this year ends.
“One more thing before the end of the year” oh “another one”, and “another”…
And it went on and on.
That pressure got even higher when I went on Facebook.
Do you realize how overwhelming Facebook can be in such moments?
Reading about all the last minute-end-of-year-new-product-launches.
Do you get what I am talking about? It was insane.
But, wait a minute!
What was going on? What was I doing to myself? What are you doing to yourself?
And how do you stop that?
If you are in a hurry, jump to the end to see a simple exercise that will bring back your sanity.
Of course, I am happy for the people who end their year with new launches or successful coffee meetings with all their friends or even a clean basement.
However, I am not okay with the fact that I let that get me under pressure.
And that, I figured out, was my big mistake.
I sat down and decided to check where I was on my goals.
And guess what?
I had already achieved my most important goals for the year in November.
So, why the heck was I killing myself?
I didn´t consider what was really important to me. By doing so, I forgot to go back to my goals for the year.
Instead, I was anxious about what more I “could” get done. Whether or not these things were important to me.
So, I urge you to do the following simple exercise right now.
I call it the “End of year serenity exercise”
Accomplishments can be any new achievement during the past 11 months; things you have stopped doing because you recognized they were not good for you; old things you´ve started doing in a new and more fulfilling way; things you are doing more because they are good for your happiness and fulfillment. They can be related to your work, relationships, money, health, …etc
Take time to acknowledge yourself for all you´ve already done this year.
You can go one step further in this exercise
- You match your accomplishments to the “important” goals you´ve set at the beginning of the year.
- You´ve already accomplished your important goals for the year? Then, work less in December or take December off and enjoy the festive period. Relax and celebrate yourself.
- There is one important goal you haven´t achieved yet? Now you know what you want to focus on within the next 4 weeks. Send me your goal, and I´ll keep you accountable on it:-) Relax and celebrate yourself.
- There are many goals you haven´t achieved yet? Make a realistic plan on how you want to go about those goals. Relax and celebrate yourself. My experience is that December is a month where people are difficult to reach, unless your product or service is tied to the festive season. Otherwise, you will probably run and knock on closed door. Chances are, you will have to revise your goals. Either they were not so important or if they are, you will reschedule them for next year. Have you considered a mastermind group to support you with your goals? Within a mastermind group you get unstock more quickly and get support in achieving your goals. I can warmly recommend the Connecting Diamonds Mastermind Groups. Join our next mastermind taster session to experience a live mastermind session.Buy yourself a present for all you´ve achieved this year!!! (or treat yourself in the way you love it but never do)
1) Choose to keep your cool in this overwhelming period of the year. You do not have to be part of the stress competition
2) Instead of running after last minute goals, celebrate your achievements of the year.
3) Choose one last thing (maximum 2) you want to do, to end the year in fulfillment. Put it on your to do list. Find someone to hold you accountable and get it done.
You will have a much more enjoyable December if you accept that celebration starts with you.
NOW IT`S YOUR TURN
Want to share your accomplishments of the year with us? Then swing yourself to the comments and let me hear you.
*Photo by Dorothee Elfring